Time For A Change

 

 Many of us believe that changes happen in big chunks or like a big bang.

And it does sometimes.

But it also happens all the time, in an imperceptible way.

Our perception of the changes also changes. We usually associate a meaning to what is happening in accordance to our beliefs and our emotional state.

I lost my mom one and half year ago. The way it happened made me to associate a positive meaning to it, which has helped me to deal with the loss.

Change is constant and thinking about how to deal with it can proactively help us to find better ways to handle it.

I can give you example of what I mean;

Let’s say you are starting in a new job position. In a first situation we will call it

a-) If you have been actively searching for a new job or if you have been headhunted and in another situation, which we will call

b-) you have been laid off of your former job.

It is the same situation but you have the meaning associate with you’re the fact you are starting in a new job. What would be your level of confidence in the situation a-) and b-). Would that be same?

If your answer is yes, congratulations, your level of confidence is fantastic and perhaps you don’t need to read it to the end.

If your answer is no, you are probably like most of us, mortal people, that associates meanings to facts and in the example given, case b, we will let it affect our self-image and confidence level.

Everything changes all the time, our body changes, our humor changes, our environment changes, even when we don’t perceive or acknowledge it.

Thank God that this happens. Imagine living in a static world?

I know, sometimes we pray for it, mainly when we are facing an unexpected (perceived as negative) change. We deny it and we wish that all could be as it was before. Because the old and comfortable “known” gives us this notion of safety and predictability.

New situations can make us feel insecure of our roles and doubtful, wondering if we have the capability to deal with what is coming.

It is safe and stable with routines and suddenly we get tired of it… and secretly we go around hoping for a change.

What we really want? This ambiguity is our eternal dilemma…

My answer to this dilemma would be starting the habit of actively taking time to reflect.

From time to time you should take time to reflect on the current situation.

Are we happy with our life as is? Or are we just comfortable?

What we would like to have differently from what we have?

What is bothering you now?

How can we consciously make things happening to become good and positive change?

An example could be to change jobs, if you are not really happy with your current one. 

What you could do to change the situation?

To search a new one, would be probably the most common answer: but to make it you need to have it clear for you what you are really searching:

Are you seeking a more challenging job?

What are possible jobs that you could think to take?

What are the types of branches you would like to work with?

What are the companies that that would suit your personality?

What are the skills necessary to have this type of work?

Is there any type of training that you could take to develop those skills?

Is there another type of job that you could use as a step to learn or to develop some of the skills you need?

Have you considered all the possibilities in your current job?

If you have started in current job today, what would do differently? Could you play a small game and try to do it today?

If you don’t want to get surprised by a change, you need start reflecting about the current situation and make some assumptions of a probable future and explore possibilities.

You can’t avoid changes and you can’t do anything against it, willing or not, that is the nature of life.

Think about the following: some of the changes are just consequences of what we have not done.

      First published here: Time For A Change